Reese Witherspoon says that if there's one misconception about Southern women it's that when they say "Oh, bless your heart" they don't really mean it. They do mean it, she insists ... or at least, usually they do.
Witherspoon, who was raised in Nashville, celebrates her Southern upbringing in a new book called Whiskey in a Teacup: What Growing Up in the South Taught Me About Life, Love, and Baking Biscuits. The book is full of memories, recipes, design ideas and cheerful photographs, celebrating small moments with family and friends.
The title comes from a phrase she remembers her grandmother saying: "Southern women are like whiskey in a teacup ... beautiful and presented well on the outside ... fierce and very strong on the inside."
When Witherspoon was young her parents had busy work schedules — her mother was a nurse and her father was a doctor. And so it was her grandmother who picked her up every day after school. "My grandmother raised me ..." she says. "I just learned everything from her — I learned how to read. I learned art. I learned cooking."
Years later, Witherspoon still shares her grandmother's love of wallpaper, decorative dinner plates and of course — monograms. She talks with NPR about Southern women, Southern charm, and the changes she sees in Hollywood.
Interview Highlights
On what to serve when you're hosting book club
I just think you can't go wrong with a great cheese plate ... I just try to keep it light, too, because mainly people just want to drink wine. Let's get real. People just want to drink wine and talk about their lives and then talk a little bit about the book.
On monogramming everything
I just I think it's so beautiful. It's such an art. It's something that I was raised with and then when I moved to California nobody did it, and I was so confused why everybody didn't have monograms on their towels and their sheets and their cups and their plates. ... I don't know where that tradition came from ... My daughter had to eventually say to me, Mom stop putting my initials on everything. I'm not from the South.
I think people thought I was being fake because I was so friendly.
On Southern charm being genuine
When I moved out to California when I was 20 I think people thought I was being fake because I was so friendly. I had a long time trying to make friends because I think people thought I wasn't being genuine but that enthusiasm over meeting people and genuine interest in other people is just that — it's very real.
On Southern women
One thing that really in my mind defines Southern women is that they have very strong boundaries. And there is a warmth there but there's also a ferocity ... to protect your family, or your friendships, or your husband, or your children. There's definitely an idea of don't cross the line with me. ... They always they start with kindness, but really, don't mess with a Southern woman.
On the effort to get more women directing in Hollywood
Someone said to me the other day: We're running out of female directors because people are seeing this absence of female authorship and are trying to right the ship and correct themselves and hire more women to direct television shows, to direct films. ... We don't have enough women to employ because a lot of them didn't even bother to get started in a profession that they felt like was a dead end road. So it's incumbent upon us — you know, women, and other people in our industry that have leadership positions — to mentor.
On encouraging young people to tell their own stories
I think it's all about identity and owning where you're from and what your unique story is. ... No one should tell your story for you. You are the unique author of your own life and in this world where everyone has a platform, and everyone has an opportunity with social media to really get their voice out there, I think it's important to speak up and speak out — particularly if you've been part of a community that feels marginalized or unheard or unseen.
On whether her life is actually as picture-perfect as it appears in the book
I hid all the junk for the pictures! Come on! When you know somebody is coming over to take a picture of your house you hide all the toys! ... They can see all the junk on my Instagram. On my Insta stories they can see the real chaos of my life. I wanted to present something that is visually pleasing and it's like, yeah, I cleaned it up for you people. I tried to make it nice.
On whether one should drink whiskey from a teacup
It depends on the kind of morning you're having.
Danny Hajek and Reena Advani produced and edited this interview for broadcast. Beth Novey adapted it for the Web.
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